Written by Debbie Akwara

Holy Sinner: "I always feel bad after sex" - Nollywood Actress Speaks.

As I always do whenever I read current or lifestyle news, I juxtapose it with the world of God and in this instance, when I read this article online i asked myself if any human being could be a holy sinner.

Nollywood actress (Name Withheld) in a brief chat with 360nobs spoke about her sexual life sincerely. Some excerpts from the interview below:

So, what will attract you to a man?
First, the man has to be very humble, God-fearing and truthful. I don’t see why two people in a relationship should lie to each other. I like people to always tell me the truth regardless of the situation. I think that is the major thing that attracts me to a man. I like surprises. Instead of telling me things to elevate yourself let me find out and be surprised. I love men who are humble.

What’s your idea of sex generally. How often should it be done?
Sex has the real pleasure when you are doing it without any form of fear. I’m not saying unmarried people should not engage in sex because there is nothing I will say that will make them stop but somebody like me, every time I do it I always feel bad that I’m sinning against God. Even before sex I feel frigid because there is always that looming fear that I’m not doing what is right. That is for me, I don’t know about any other person. If I’m married to the man then I will feel very free and enjoy it very well.

I am a firm believer in every human being having a special place where they hold God dear and I so do not criticize her position. Reading about her preference for a hubby, her preference is a man who fears God and is truthful.

Whether we believe it or not the godly principles of life will always supersede any other! I have never heard any woman tell me that she does not want a God fearing man who will be truthful to her but as ladies we must not trade our bodies for earthly pleasures because the way we handle our relationships and our approach to dating will determine the kind of man we marry.

God hates sin! And sin is sin! There is no middle point when it comes to sin and God. If you are single please note that fornication will mar your relationship with God!

The word of God is precise in this matter…
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 ESV

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
Galatians 5:19-21 ESV

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

It may look like an impossible thing to do but I am living proof that all things can be done if you rely on God for assistance. We are human and our very nature is sinful but that is why we have the Holy Spirit. We can’t live godly lives by ourselves, we need God every second of our lives.

The world has set the standard and there are some guys who will tell you straight up no sex no marriage. Please guys let such people go because each time you have pre marital sex you die spiritually and you go farther and farther away from God!

There is no such thing as a HOLY SINNER! You are either HOLY or a SINNER and the beautiful thing is just as our heavenly Father does not condemn you so I do not. At some point in my life I felt sex had to be part of every relationship and I defined it as intimacy/checking how sexually active my partner is but you know where that got me? Getting pregnant outside wedlock and getting married for the wrong reasons!

It is not better experienced trust me, so when you make a decision concerning marriage be sure that God has endorsed that person and you can only know that clearly when you consistently seek His face concerning that person and abstain from sexual sin.

Don’t feel like you are in it too deep to get out, anytime you know better is a good time to start over with God!

Join me my dearest friends, let us keep our bodies holy unto God until marriage. Determine in your heart to obey God and love Him.

Let’s pray..

Dear Lord, thank you for making me in your image and likeness, I want to live a holy life devoid of any sexual sin but I can’t do it without you, help me Lord, please help me. In Jesus name, Amen!

He will, I promise you, He will just pray more and study the bible more, God never fails.

Have a FAB weekend.

Courtesy of www.thewaterbrookchurch.org

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  1. you can never be in too deep, take it from someone who knows... God can pull you out if you are willing to get out. I have escaped all forms of immorality haven spent years helpless with various and praying to God that "I know if You can take away this sin, i can find my way to you," guess what? God did and i feel like i was never into that sin ever! Lovely Post! we should take this further to the youths